How to Cope With Homesickness When Moving House
So, you are moving house, and as you stand at your doorway for one last time, you struggle to keep yourself together.
Moving house for some can be an intensely emotional affair. It’s no surprise there. We are emotional beings, and we get attached to the house, the place, city we live in. Once you start getting comfortable in an area, it becomes a home – your haven. You feel deeply attached. It’s no wonder that when you move house, you feel like you are leaving behind a piece of your heart.
But when you have to leave the place, whether temporarily or permanently, you feel a deep longing for what you have left behind. And those feelings may linger for days, months, or even years.
So, how do you manage your emotions when this profound sense of nostalgia engulfs you? Here are eight practical tips for you:
Be aware of what you are feeling
First off, figure out what is it that’s bothering you.
If you are unhappy, ask why?
The following questions will help you to take stock of your situation.
- Is it because you don’t fit in?
- Do you miss your friends back home?
- Is it because of the weather?
- The traffic?
- The neighbours?
- Are you upset because you are not in your comfort zone?
- Or are you dissatisfied with your new place and circumstances?
- Or could it be that you are just feeling lonely?
- Worried that the removals service you chose has damaged items?
Whatever it is, think about it. And once you’ve identified the cause of your sadness, you need to work on changing it.
Homesick feelings are a bag of mixed emotions. You have to sit down and untangle the mess. Start by identifying what exactly is making you sad. You might want to write down everything you are thinking about. Then try to find a way to make peace with these thoughts.
Don’t suppress your feelings
Permit yourself to feel sad. Unlike mental health disorders like depression and anxiety, homesickness is temporary and situational. So, embrace your emotions. But don’t get carried away. Do not start ruminating or keep dwelling in the past forever. Or else you will be stuck in the past. Accept it and let go, gradually.
Change your perspective
When you are homesick, you tend to focus on all the things wrong with where you are now. But you should remember that change is inevitable. There is nothing wrong with being uncomfortable. It’s quite a normal part of life.
When you were at your old place, were you thrilled every day? Probably not. Did you ever wish you lived somewhere else? At least some days, thoughts of living somewhere might have crossed your mind. We tend to idealise our past sometimes. And fail to see things for what they are.
Instead of focusing on the negatives, try to look at the positives. Think about all the good things that come with living in a new place. Maybe you’ll meet new people, learn new skills, or perhaps you’ll discover something new about yourself.
This new place will eventually grow on you. Who’s to say that it won’t?
Change your expectations
You tend to expect the worst from your new surroundings when you are homesick. But you shouldn’t let your expectations dictate your experience. If you are expecting too much, you will be disappointed.
For example, you might expect your new neighbourhood to be as safe as your previous one. However, it isn’t always so. Your new place might be noisy, dirty, or unsafe. It might be better than your old place, but it doesn’t have to be.
You might also expect your new job to be more challenging than your last one. But it may be easier. So instead of getting caught up in unrealistic expectations, try to adjust and adapt to them.
Think about how you can make the best of your current situation.
Remember that you are moving into a different environment and it is an opportunity to explore new places and experiences. This means that you will encounter new challenges and opportunities.
Get out and explore your surroundings.
The worst thing you can do when you’re feeling down is stay at home and engage in overthinking. That’s a no-go. Carry yourself out of the house.
Go for a walk around the neighbourhood. Or visit a museum, an art gallery, local coffee shop, pubs, bars or any place where you can socialise.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t know anyone there yet. You just need to get out of the house and make yourself home.
Take care of your health
While you are caught up in homesickness, you may ignore eating and sleeping well. When you are under stress, your body tends to crave comfort food. So, try to avoid eating junk food. Instead, eat healthy meals and snacks.
Try to exercise regularly. Exercise releases endorphins which make you happy. Plus, it helps keep you fit and healthy.
If you feel like you aren’t sleeping enough, try to set aside time to rest. Take a nap or go to bed early.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help and support from your loved ones
If you struggle to deal with homesickness, talk to someone who cares about you. Ask for their advice and guidance.
Talking to someone helps you process your feelings and think through your options. It also gives you a chance to vent your frustrations and worries.
Everyone has been through this before: your parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunties, uncles, teachers, coaches, friends, neighbours, and colleagues. They understand and can empathise with you.
They can offer practical solutions to your problems. And most importantly, they care about you.
So, don’t feel ashamed asking for help.
Remember, this too shall pass!
As time goes by, you will slowly begin to adapt to your new lifestyle. And before you know it, you will be feeling more settled than ever.
We all get homesick from time to time. Some people even get homesick
So, how do you deal with homesickness when you move house?